Vaginal orgasms, sexuality & health

Ask any vulva owner and you will likely be told that all orgasms are good orgasms! However, we get repeated questions at Sexploratorium from every-kind-of-body about the elusive vaginal orgasm and the other mysteries of the female-assigned body, elusive even to many folks who were born with said bodies.
Many biologically-assigned males have a hard time imagining that there are a huge percentage of people who can go days, weeks, years and even decades without figuring out the Big O.  Do not be discouraged by the statistics; while it may be true that between 60 and 80 per cent of people with vaginas cannot achieve orgasmic climax trhough penetration alone; the reality is that sexuality is endlessly recreational in its explorations and that placing pressure on the idea of “having an orgasm” is not likely to make it happen any sooner.  The best overall advice we can give is :enjoy the journey with yourself or your partner.

Here are some FAQs from the many trails explored in the quest  for greater pleasure:

What is the difference between a clitoral orgasm and a vaginal orgasm? A clitoral orgasm is an externally produced orgasm that initiates from the perineal nerve pathway or the nerves that travel between the anus and clitoris. A “vaginal orgasm”includes internal stimulation of the pelvic nerve pathway, or the nerves that travels from the internal vagina upward to the bladder. What sensations can induce a clitoral orgasm? A clitoral orgasm in induced by direct or indirect stimulation of the clitoris or its surrounding skin.

What is the G-spot? The G-spot (short for Gräfenberg spot or as the ancient Greeks called it, the “female prostate”) is a collection of paraurethral glands on the upper wall of the vagina that secrete prostatic fluid. It is a gray color (whereas the rest of the vaginal walls are pink) and swells during sexual arousal (along with most of the vulva and vaginal tissue). We recommend the Good Vibrations Guide to the G-Spot for easily understood information on the topic.

What would a toy need to do in order to make G-spot stimulation easier? In order to provide effective self-stimulation of the G-spot, a toy would need to curve upward to reach the internal upper wall of the vagina. We recommend a host of G-spot toys!

What products should be avoided if pregnancy is the goal? Persons trying to get pregnant should avoid lubricants containing spermicide, vitamin-C (ascorbic acid) or any other sperm-killing ingredients.  We recommend Pre-Seed lubricant and Water Slide.

What actions can be taken to lower the risk of injury or STI transmission during anal sex? The risk for disease transmission during anal sex can be substantially lowered by using a barrier method (reality condom, condom) to prevent fluid exchange and plenty of lubricant to prevent tears or injury to the anus.

What can make anal penetration a more pleasurable experience? A combination of ingredients can help make anal penetration can be made more pleasurable including: foreplay/mental stimulation/relaxationoral/anal stimulation.simultaneous clitoral/ genital stimulationpreparation/relaxation with small plug, toy, or fingermassage of the external area and most importantly, lots of lubrication, as the anus does not create its own!

How can the cervix be viewed through a speculum? A woman can view her own cervix through a speculum by inserting the speculum in the direction of her cervix, opening the speculum and viewing the inside with a flashlight through a mirror.

How can the G-spot be viewed by using a speculum? A person can use half of a speculum, insert it vertically and pull to one side to view the gray g-spot on the upper wall of the vagina in a mirror or with a partner’s eye/camera.

What functions do dual-action vibrators perform? Triple action? Dual action vibrators are made to stimulate two parts of the body at the same time, usually the clitoris and g-spot/internal vagina.  Triple-action vibrators are made to stimulate three places at once, often the clitoris and g-spot with an additional internal vibrator for the vagina or an extra insertable or external vibrating anal prong.

How can a I double penetrate my partner?  A person with a penis son can double penetrate a partner with a vagina by strapping on a dildo with a harness that allows space for their own penis to penetrate.  Any gender (including biological males) can double-penetrate a partner using a harness that can hold two toys.
What are your favorites products for double penetration? U shaped dildo, Double pronged dildo, Double strap-on harness, Lubricant, Double toy combination, Anal plug/ penis combination,