Playing Well With Others: A Warm and Welcoming Guide to the Kink, BDSM, and Leather Communities

In Playing Well With Others, Mollena Williams and Lee Harrington articulate a supportive atmosphere representative of minority sexual and fetish communities as places for healing and wellness through sexual expression and interpreting conflicted desires as a means of comprehending different realities. As a part of this marginalization, Harrington and Williams sympathetically call attention to entering these diverse sexual communities with suggestions to listen to others, be well with others, and, most importantly, to play well with others. Both of them are deeply invested in these fetish communities and demonstrate their attraction to and thorough understanding of them.

playing wellHarrington and Williams present practical points to discovering and navigating fetish communities that is as accessible as it is kind, endearing, and personably inviting. The tone throughout the book is supportive, sincere, and consistently comical. Both share some telling moments about experiences they have had while moving through different spaces. Williams has one particularly humorous anecdote about traveling through TSA security in the airport on their way to a kink conference while sporting a slave collar with a suitcase full of dildos, vibrators, whips, and bondage rope. Security takes Williams aside and examines their bag and receives a baffled look as the security person takes a look inside the bag and then a good look at Williams wearing their collar before telling them to move along.

Williams and Harrington situate themselves, their desires (both sexual and non-sexual), and their positions and experiences in fetish communities while giving detailed layouts of what to prepare for financially, packing-wise, and emotionally when heading off to a munch, a kink conference, or a night out at a fetish club. As someone who has read extensively about kink communities, but has not been to many community events, this book resonated strongly with questions that I have had, but have honestly been too shy or embarrassed to ask people who are so deeply devoted and involved in these communities. Luckily, both Williams and Harrington share their deep personal investments and perspectives on fetish communities as a well-mannered “how-to” guide for understanding and navigating these communities.

Regardless of whether you have been involved in kink, fetish, BDSM, or leather communities for years, feel that you have a thorough understanding of diverse desires and bodies, or are just curious, this book openly and accessibly presents perverts in their most honest, whole, and wonderfully engaging fashion.

If you do become an instant fan or are merely curious after this, Mollena Williams will be presenting at Sexploratorium on South 5th Street, right off of South Street this Saturday, December 29 at 5 pm. Come learn what she has to share about submission and bottoming!

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