Female-bodied orgasms, sexuality & health

Ask any female-body and you will likely be told that all orgasms are good orgasms! However we get repeated questions at Sexploratorium from every-kinda-body about the elusive female orgasm and the other mysteries of the female body, elusive even to many folks who were born female.
Many biological men have a hard-time imagining that women can go days, weeks, years and even decades without figuring out the big O.  The reality is, that sex is endlessly recreational in its explorations and that stressing out about “having an orgasm” is not likely to make it happen any sooner, so learning to enjoy the journey with yourself or your female-bodied partner is the best overall advice we can give.

 Here are some FAQs from the trenches in the battle for greater pleasure:

What is the difference between a clitoral orgasm and a vaginal orgasm? A clitoral orgasm is an externally produced orgasm that initiates from the perineal nerve pathway or the nerves that travel between the anus and clitoris. A vaginal orgasm is the result of internal stimulation of the pelvic nerve pathway, or the nerves that travels from the internal vagina upward to the bladder. What sensations can induce a clitoral orgasm? A clitoral orgasm in induced by direct or indirect stimulation of the clitoris or its surrounding skin.

 

What is the G-spot? The G-pot (or as the ancient Greeks called it, the “female prostate) is a collection of paraurethral glands on the upper wall of the vagina that secrete prostatic fluid. It is a gray color (wheras the rest of the vaginal walls are pink) and swells during sexual arousal (along with most of the vulva and vaginal tissue). We recommend the Good Vibrations Guide to the G-Spot for easily understood information on the topic.

What would a toy need to do in order to make G-spot stimulation easier? In order to provide effective self-stimulation of the G-spot, a toy would need to curve upward to reach the internal upper wall of the vagina. We recommend a host of G-spot toys!

What products should a woman avoid using if she is attempting to become pregnant? A woman who is trying to get pregnant should avoid lubricants containing spermicide, vitamin-C (ascorbic acid) or any other sperm-killing ingredients.  We recommend Pre-Seed lubricant and Water-slide.

What actions can be taken to lower the risk of injury or STI transmission during anal sex? The risk for disease transmission during anal sex can be substantially lowered by using a barrier method (reality condom, condom) to prevent fluid exchange and plenty of lubricant to prevent tears or injury to the anus.

What can make anal penetration a more pleasurable experience for a woman? Anal penetration can be made more pleasurable with:

foreplay/ mental stimulation/ relaxation

oral/anal stimulation

simultaneous clitoral/ genital stimulation

preparation/ relaxation with small plug, toy, or finger

massage of the external area

lots of lubrication as the anus does not create its own.

How can the cervix be viewed through a speculum? A woman can view her own cervix through a speculum by inserting the speculum in the direction of her cervix, opening the speculum and viewing the inside with a flashlight through a mirror.

How can the G-spot be viewed by using a speculum? A person can use half of a speculum, insert it vertically and pull to one side to view the gray g-spot on the upper wall of the vagina in a mirror or with a partner’s eye/camera.

 

What functions do dual-action vibrators perform? Triple action? Dual action vibrators  are made to stimulate two parts of the body at the same time, usually the clitoris and g-spot/ internal vagina.  Triple-action vibrators are made to stimulate three places at once, often the clitoris and g-spot with an additional internal vibrator for the vagina or an extra vibrating anal prong.

How can a male double penetrate his female partner? How can other genders do it?   A male-bodied person can double penetrate a female partner by strapping on a dildo with a harness that allows space for their own penis to penetrate.  Any gender (including biological males) can double-penetrate a female partner using a harness that can hold two toys.

 

What are your favorites product for Double penetration?

U shaped dildo

Double pronged dildo

Double strap-on harness

Lubricant

Double toy combination

Anal plug/ penis combination